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Anger
To practice from anger, it is necessary to have mindfulness and clear comprehension. When angry, it is better not to speak. Otherwise, with anger in the mind, our speech tends to be unwise. I think that makes a lot of sense. We may try to control our speech that is spoken while our heart is still heated with anger; but if we were to be thoroughly honest with ourselves, we can see that the words we use will tend to be improper. Even if the words are not literally harsh, the tone is likely to be spiked with anger. Under the influence of anger, that is to be expected. So, when we are angry, it may be best to keep our mouths shut and patiently watch the anger with detachment until it dies off. But what if we in a situation where we find that it is better to say something at that time and place ?
I suppose there are situations when we should speak, despite the lingering anger, such as when a parent needs to admonish a child at a specific juncture. Although admonishing a child, or anyone else, can be and is best done without anger, we may find situations where it is better to speak there and then although the anger is still there. If it were not necessary to speak at that time, then it would be better to plainly keep our mouths shut and patiently be with the anger till it dies off. Then, having cooled down, our speech will naturally not be harsh, since anger is no longer there as the motivating force. Sometimes we may even find what we earlier thought was so very necessary to say, is better left unsaid after all!
All these may seem somewhat complicated, but if mindfulness and clear comprehension are present, we’ll naturally know just the right thing to do at the right time and in the right way. It wouldn”t be complicated at all.
Therefore, while we are still not free from anger, we should be mindful of it and exercise proper restraint. This is, after all, for our own good.